One of the biggest misconceptions about escorting is that it's extremely dangerous.
While there are risks, they're easy to manage if you follow the rules.
Like any profession, being an escort comes with a set of safety regulations and recommendations. In this post, we'll tell you what they are.
Get to know these escort safety rules, and you won't have any problems.
Follow these golden rules to make your work as safe as possible.
The safest way to advertise yourself is to use a website.
You don't have to be tech-savvy or hire a web designer to do this for you. Thanks to online website builders, it's easy to create a professional website by yourself.
On your site, you can control exactly how much information about yourself you disclose. You can also take it down whenever you need to.
If you're you're working with an agency, they'll advertise for you on their existing site.
It's absolutely essential that you screen your clients before you see them.
The first way to do this is to set up a form that they can fill in on your website. There, you can collect names, contact details and any other information you'd like. Then, you can choose whether or not to reach out to them.
Many escorts cross-reference new clients by checking with each other before they see them. Ask other escorts if they've seen them before. If they have, they'll be able to tell you whether or not you should see them, and what to expect if you do.
After exchanging emails or other online communication with a new client, it's best to contact them by phone. This way, you can have a conversation and get a feel for them and take it from there.
Some escorts also ask for social media accounts, formal identification or proof of employment, so they can verify the identity of their clients, too.
When you do your cross-referencing with other escorts, take note of any clients they warn you against seeing to make sure you can avoid them.
Add this to a 'do not see' list, along with the names of any previous clients that you don't want to see again. This will help you to protect other escorts as well as yourself.
To make sure every client experience runs smoothly, have an iron-clad set of rules that you follow for each one.
Make your boundaries clear before you see a client, letting them know exactly what you are and aren't willing to do. It's important that you're both on the same page and that the client has realistic expectations.
Misunderstandings can sometimes result in difficult or even dangerous situations for escorts, so be clear from the start.
If you're going on an outcall, the client may offer to pick you up. Never accept the offer.
Make your own way there, either with a personal driver or using public transportation. It's ideal to have someone you trust drop you off and pick you up after a specified amount of time.
If you can do this, make sure your client knows that you have someone waiting for you outside.
Disclosing personal information to your clients can be dangerous. That's why most escorts operate under aliases.
If a client knows your identity, address or personal contact information, they may get a little too close for comfort. To avoid this, don't carry your ID when you're seeing clients. Otherwise, they may take a peek while you're not looking to find out your real name.
Don't jump straight into an appointment in a private place. First, set up an introductory meeting somewhere public so you can get to know each other.
Coffee shops are perfect for this. Sit down with them and spend some time learning about their expectations. At the same time, you can clearly lay out your requirements.
At the end of these meetings, make sure the client doesn't follow you home.
Refuse to meet any clients who insist on you going to their home, hotel or workplace straight away. This is often a warning sign of a police sting and should be avoided at all costs.
Before you head out to see a new client, tell someone where you're going. This could be another escort, a close friend, a family member, or anyone else whom you trust.
Let them know where you're meeting and how long you expect your appointment to take. Then, give them some instructions on what to do if they don't hear from you after a certain amount of time. They can check-in to make sure everything went to plan, and call for help if it didn't.
Escort safety isn't just about avoiding violence, exploitation or arrest. It's also about sexual health.
Always using a condom is one of the unwritten rules of escorting. Some clients will try to work around this rule, but it should be non-negotiable.
As well as using protection, get regular sexual health checks to make sure you stay on top of things.
The easiest and safest way to accept payment from clients is by cash.
If you use cards, online transfers or any other payment methods, things get more complicated. If you take cash, all you have to do is use a banknote tester pen to check for counterfeit notes.
It's best to get your payments up-front at the start of your appointments. If you wait until the end, some clients may refuse to pay.
When you're first starting out, all of these escort safety rules may seem overwhelming. However, they quickly become second nature.
One of the best things about escort work is that you can be your own boss. That means that you get to set your own rules and boundaries for your work.
To find out more, read our post on what it's really like to be an escort.